Quote for the Day

“A man who trims himself to suit everybody will soon whittle himself away.”
Charles Schwab

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photo by Christopher


19 thoughts on “Quote for the Day”

  1. A person who tries to suit (to meet the needs or desires of : please; to be in accordance w/) ‘everybody’ may be very insecure in who they are and so to gain a distorted type of approval and acceptance they are not able or willing to disagree or object or say no to others’ wishes and wants. They are afraid to show their true colors and in so doing their true self is never developed….or as the author puts it, is or has been “whittled away”.
    Romans 12:2 reminds us not to conform to the world or its wishes but get our mind transformed so we can do right according to God’s perfect will for our ‘self’. And if we think we can somehow control or pacify our ‘enemies’ by this kind of chameleon behavior He tells us otherwise in Prov 16:7 “When a man’s ways please the LORD, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.”

  2. I love Proverbs 16:7 “When my ways please the Lord, He will make even my enemies to be a peace with me.”

    It sure is easier to please the ‘One’ rather than all other ones, isn’t it?

    I am wondering if the reason we have so much “burn out” is because we try and please all but the One we are to please?

  3. Ok Debi, just to play the adversary and to gain for understanding’s sake…. What is Paul saying in the following verses? “For although I am free in every way from anyone’s control, I have made myself a bond servant to everyone so that I might gain the more for Christ. To the Jew I became as a Jew that I might win the Jews to Christ. To men under the Law I became as under the Law so that I might win those under the Law. To those without or outside of the Law I became as one without the Law or Lawless (not toward Christ) but as Lawless that I might win the ones who are without Law. To the weak and undiscerning I became weak to win the weak and overscrupulous and all men that I may by all means and by all costs and in every way and in any way save some….winning them to Christ. Therefore, I have become all things to all men that I might win some to Christ.” 1 Cor.9:20-23

  4. Sara, I think you are right about burn out. We can get stressed out and worn out busily trying to please everybody (but the Lord). My mother used to use an expression about those that frantically wore themselves out trying to be all things to all people…”burning the candle at both ends”. I found this online about the origin of the phrase and thought it relevant:”… it was first coined in the 18th century. The both ends then weren’t the ends of the day but were a literal reference to both ends of a candle. Candles were useful and valuable and the notion of waste suggested by lighting both ends at once implied reckless waste. This thought may well have been accentuated by the fact that candles may only be lit at both ends when held horizontally, which would cause them to drip and burn out quickly.”
    Your suggestion to please the One is much healthier. “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. Matt 11:28-29.

  5. MG I think the above scriptures you refer to about becoming all things to all men may have to do with Paul’s willingness and ability to heartfully understand and communicate with all types of people IN ORDER to win them to Christ. He wasn’t afraid to meet with them and enter their territory but his character and the life of Christ in Him changed the atmosphere and challenged them (as His words do to us today)to come up higher and not to be conformed to this world but to be transformed by the power of the living Christ.

  6. The quote says to me that the shape shifter of the world if we allow it remolds the original vessel of heaven until one doesn’t see any likeness to the original. We then have to go back to the original potter and be transformed as Debi says by the power of the living Christ. In other words we are the clay but watch whose hands we allow to shape us. As pots have different purposes, we also have a purpose – do we choose God as our potter or a pot shape shifted by the world that is set aside or not used as it was intended.

  7. This quote says to me that when you become the husbandman in your vineyard instead of allowing the Lord to do the cutting away…you end up cutting the very thing He may need to fullfill the call on your life….thereby cutting the real you away….you did it yourself…..and all you will have is self….and thats pretty bad …I agree with you Sara it sure would be easier to please The One and not all the other ones…… and the One is Jesus …dj

  8. I have often heard the saying….”you can’t please everybody.” We will certainly “whittle away” , as Charles Schwab puts it. I agree, we need to focus on pleasing our Lord.

    The little boy in Christopher’s picture is just about to “whittle away”, under that BIG umbrella??? heehee

  9. Needles your comment made me think of a song entitled “One Day at Time Sweet Jesus”. Yes I too agree we can only focus on pleasing Him.

    One Day At A Time

    I’m only human–I’m just a man/woman.
    Help me believe in what I believe and all that I am.
    Show me the stairway that I have to climb,
    Lord, for my sake, teach me to take, one day at a time.

    One day at a time, sweet Jesus, that’s all I’m asking of you.
    Teach me today, to do all the things that I have to do.
    Yesterdays gone, sweet Jesus, and tomorrow may never be mine.
    Lord, for my sake, teach me to take, one day at a time.

    Do you remember, when you walked among men?
    Well, Jesus you know, if you’re looking below, It’s worse now than then.
    There’s cheating and stealing–violence and crime.
    So for my sake – teach me to take one day at a time.

    One day at a time, sweet Jesus, that’s all I’m asking of you.
    Teach me today, to do all the things that I have to do.
    Yesterdays gone, sweet Jesus, and tomorrow may never be mine.
    Lord, for my sake, teach me to take, one day at a time.

  10. Needles, I agree with you about Christopher’s picture. And it made me picture that perhaps that big umbrella could represent God’s protection, covering over our lives and authority. And as we become as a little child (Matthew 18:3 ), following His ways in order to please Him then we enter the kingdom of God and are blessed with His kingdom benefits. “He must increase in importance, while I must decrease in importance. (John 3:30)

  11. As I was reading this blog, one question came to my mind. How can one man make everone happy. How can one man suit everyone’s needs. Why even try to suit everyone’s needs. We wrote about Ecciesiastes on the previous blog. I believe it can also apply to this blog. Ecc. 1:8 Everything is so weary and tiresome. No matter how muchwe see, we are NEVER satisfied. No matter how much we hear we are NEVER content. Ecc 1:14 Everything under the sun is meaningless, like chasing the wind. This tells me that we are never satisfied and we are never content. If this is true, what makes us think we can run around suit everyone’s needs, when we can’t even suit our own needs. How can we fix others when we can’t even fix ourselves. To try to suit other’s needs is like chasing the wind. It is an impossible task, that drains all our energy until we whittle away. So why do we try to complete such a meaningless task. What makes us think we can accomplish this. Shouldn’t we use our energy to suit God and not people. If stop chasing the wind, trying to suit people, and started trying to suit God, we will find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

  12. Chickenfarmer, I have read and reread your comments above. I think if we were in interdependent relationships in all areas of our lives we would not have to have this discussion. Do you agree?
    interdependent (two or more people or things) dependent on each other. Which again is submit to one another. Being humble. I am always thinking “take others into consideration when making decisions, etc.” Being honest, having integrity, purity and selflessness makes relationships ‘Rock-solid.’

    I think we would please a lot of people and they would please us with the above virtues. Now if these are missing, then what?

  13. I just heard on the news that a young….(25 year old man)…just attacked, killed and injured many people in a busy electronic mall in another nation. He told the police as he was apprehended that he was “sick and tired of his life.” He said it was meaningless and he hated it…words paraphrased to that extent. Sounds like Ecclesiastes.
    One would imagine that someone young could not have possibly depleted life of its vigor and vitality, excitement and adventure. Yet, there are young people, younger than 25 years old…recently a student that I know of personally who took his life because obviously he did not want to live , anymore.
    Perhaps, if we followed Sara’s counsel to keep others in our consideration….if we all did that…each in our own way in some way, every day, we could start to fulfill what Paul says in 1 Cor. 9:20 and start to win souls, little lost souls and those who are disenchanted with this wonderful life that the Lord Jesus Christ has given to us.

  14. Sara you asked “Now if these are missing, then what?” The thought came to me that if the virtues of honest, integrity, purity and selflessness are missing in relationships than all we have is a masquerade ball. You don’t know what ‘s behind the mask or who your dance partner really is.

  15. Sara, we do need to help others for the right reasons. If we are helping others because we want them to do something for us or so we can get recognition from others, we are helping for the wrong reasons. If we help others to fulfill our joy, this is not enough to fulfill our joy. We may become disappointed in people’s reaction to our help, and this can lead to a downward emtional spiral. Sometimes, we already have in our minds how others should respond to us. Sometimes their reaction could be opposite to how we built it up in our minds. We can become very disappointed and even bitter, for something that could have been a good thing. If this is the case we are looking for our joy in the wrong places. The Bible states that our good works are like filthy rags. This tells me that it will take more than good works to get me into Heaven.

  16. Chickenfarmer, Old man and Ms. Ego seemly has a way to keep us thinking and looking in the wrong places all too many times. The intellect needs to be given control of the mind and allowed to over rule the demands of the ego. It seems like we at times have difficultly reasoning with ourselves. Maybe we get to a point we can reason and then we come in contact and relationship with others.

    Chickenfarmer, now I am wondering who the one is that tries to please everybody, is it ego or authentic self? Gee, Chickenfarmer, I have worked all day and now you have made my brain tried.

  17. I’d like to hear what chickenfarmer thinks about Sara’s question.

    It looks like Ms Ego is the promoter for the Old Man to stay in the limelight. Yet Col 3 tells us to ‘put off the old man’ and put on the ‘new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him.’ What a power struggle. Jesus resolved the struggle and took action against self-promotion. Phil 2:7 says ‘He made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.’ He didn’t feed Ms Ego.

  18. Yes, Chickenfarmer, and others, which one of us trims himself and which one is whittle away? “A man who trims himself to suit everybody will soon whittle himself away.”

    Is there more than one of me doing this strange thing? Is it an illusion? Why am I not I am with the I AM!

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