Study with Sara-Do we need Emotional Crutches

for our emotional handicaps?

Are we emotionally handicapped at times? Do we use walking canes made of ‘poor me’ wood? Do we wear cheap walking shoes that fit like “I’m going to walk all over you?” Do we hobble around on crutches made from ‘Popular Pride’ that surely will cause us to fall?

What Doctor do we visit for our healing? A friend that agrees with us so we can keep riding our emotional roller coaster for free, or so we think? Does a new car or house make us what we ought to be?

We at times read every magazine and study every ad so we can shine like the Bright Morning Star, or so we believe?

Look at the two contrasting pictures, and see which one, if I should buy one or the other, would help make me a better person? Or, help to develop my character? Draw me closer to Jesus? Give me a better family relationship?

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Are we getting it? It seems that Emotional Handicaps are all about ME!

Proverbs 20:5,6 “Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water, But a man of understanding will draw it out. Most men will proclaim each his own goodness, but who can find a faithful man?” And, I cannot forget verse 7 “The righteous man walks in his integrity; His children are blessed after him.”

Let’s read these verses together from The Message: “Knowing what is right is like deep water in the heart; a wise person draws from the well within. Lots of people claim to be loyal and loving, but where on earth can you find one? God-loyal people, living honest lives, make it much easier for their children.”

Now let’s read 19:26 “Kids who lash out against their parents are an embarrassment and disgrace.” Let’s don’t stop short of Victory, read 19:27 “If you quit listening, dear child, and strike off on your own, you’ll soon be out of your depth.”

WOW, look at more of what the Wise man says….

Proverbs 20:14, The shopper says, “That’s junk—I’ll take it off your hands,” then goes off boasting of the bargain.”

Proverbs 11:14 Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.

Proverbs 24:6 For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety.

I like both the John Deere and the Porsche and even Rena’s new pug. But either or all without God’s Wisdom will leave us hurting and wounded and broken relationships with our family and friends. Newness of things when used for emotional crutches will wear out and we may lose our hope, health and joy.

Let’s get together in God’s Word and help to bring healing to one another and others and rid ourselves of these old ’emotional handicaps’ that keeps coming again and again.


9 thoughts on “Study with Sara-Do we need Emotional Crutches”

  1. I know as a mother, wife, sister, daughter,etc….. it sure is easy to hop onto this emotional roller coaster, Sara is talking about. Also, it becomes easy to involve everyone around to join in. But I must remember God’s Word. Read with me 1Peter 5:8 ” Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” God does not want us to allow the devil the “upper hand”. He has told us in His Word….Jeremiah 29:11 ” For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you, declares the Lord, and will bring you back from captivity.” Lord, help us not to jump on this emotional roller coaster when “things happen”. Help us to seek You with all our hearts, because we know You have plans for us to prosper and not be destroyed by the enemy! Thank you, Sara for helping us all be healed,by reminding us that we don’t have to use the “poor me” walking stick, we have a Heavenly Father, who wants us to prosper.

  2. Needles, I love the scripture declaration from Jeremiah 29 that you have quoted for us. How easy it is to forget God’s plan for us when we are offended and get on the devil’s roller coaster.

    I am always moved in my heart by this scripture:
    Mark 8:36 “For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?”

    When we read the blog and your comment in context we realize that when we let God do the leading He gives us a perfect plan, our heart’s desires and saves our soul from the pit of hell.

    Beth Moore has a book out that I really like “Get Out of That Pit: Straight Talk about God’s Deliverance.”

    Mark 8:38 says “If any of you are embarrassed over me and the way I’m leading you when you get around your fickle and unfocused friends, know that you’ll be an even greater embarrassment to the Son of Man when he arrives in all the splendor of God, his Father, with an army of the holy angels.” Message

    I am so thankful that we have a heavenly Father that watches over us, loves us and cares for our soul for now and all eternity.

  3. I appreciate what Sara and Needles had to say about God’s plans for us. He does plan good for us.
    I was reading Luke 15 this morning about a loving father who gave his younger son an inheritance. The younger son went far away and spent all his money living it up. Maybe he thought it would make him happy. Maybe he was a compulsive spender. Maybe he just enjoyed a good time. Maybe he was running away from something that had left him with a hurt, empty feeling and thought a change of scenery, circumstances and acquisitions would take the ache away. I don’t think the scripture really tells the reason. Sara asked us above if buying a John Deere or a Porsch would make us a better person, develop our character or draw us closer to Jesus. I don’t think this scripture tells us it did for the younger son. But when the money and good things were gone something happened to him. He started thinking about his father’s house and how to go back and ask his earthly father for forgiveness and His heavenly Father also. Maybe when the money ran out so did his ‘friends’ and support group in the ‘far country’. I wonder if his ‘popular pride stick’ Sara spoke of broke down? Whatever happened, he came seeking his Father and a place of servanthood. What he got when he returned seeking (Needles talked to us above about seeking Him with all our heart) and repentant was a loving, caring, gracious and generous father who truly cared for and provided for him.
    Interestingly, the Father’s love and generosity toward this son affected the older son so much that his emotional handicap of anger and disrespect erupted toward his father and jealousy toward the brother. He had justified himself as the loyal, honest living guy that Sara wrote about in Prov 20. Maybe that very justification was a ‘popular pride stick’ for him. Maybe if he couldn’t be #1 he couldn’t be happy. It is sad. Even though his father tried to console him by pointing out that all he had was always his, he couldn’t stand it that another’s party was a bit flashier. I think he was deeply insecure about his father’s care for him. He didn’t understand all that he really had and he really didn’t have a grateful heart. Resentment won. The devil gained the ‘upper hand’ as Needles warned us of above. So, in thinking about all these emotional handicaps… perhaps if we could really grasp with our whole being how much we have in our Father’s house….all the love and security and affirmation and true provisions we really need …we would leave our crutches and walking sticks behind and follow Him.

  4. I love the John Deere and Porsch, but they will not necessarily bring you closer to Jesus. When I am in dispair I often think of hopping on one or the other and riding into the sunset without ever coming back. Escape – yes from the problem at hand. When you return you are still faced with the problem at hand.

    This morning I was reading Ephesians 6:10-18. It read: Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done every thing to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled aorund your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In action to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.

    In the notes of my NIV Bible it says 6:12 not against flesh and blood. A caution aginst lashing out againt human opponents as though they were the real enemy and also against assuming that the battle can be fought using merely human resources, rulers…forces. (The person going through this gets on an emotional roller coaster trying to work it out in his/her own way bringing others on their roller coaster ride as well.)
    6:13 stand your ground – Stand firm, in this context the imagery is not that of a massive invasion of the domain of evil, but of individual soldiers withstanding assault. (In other words I have to face the situation and not run away on my John Deere tractor or Porsche.)
    6:14 belt of truth – Character, not brute force, wins the battle, just as in the case of the Messiah, breastplate of righteousness. Here again, the warriors character is their defense. God himself is symbolically described as putting on a breastplate of righteousness when he goes forth to bring about justice. (This says to me although my character may be attacked that as a child of God if I stand firm with Jesus that my character will shine forth. If I choose the emotional roller coaster I am doomed. My mind will be tied in knots, I can’t think even think about calling out in prayer to ‘God help, unknot my mind.”
    6:15 feet fitted with the readiness – …picturesquely connected with the protective and supprotive footgear of the Roman soldiers, gospel of peace. Romans 5:1 note says that peace is knowing that you have a relationship with good as a friend. (Says to me hold on to Jesus all the days of your life.)
    6:16 shield of faith ….extinguish…flaming arrows (Jesus will get rid of those arrows coming towards you.)
    6:17-18 sword of the spirit…pray in the Spirit – reminds us that the battle is spiritual and must be fought in God’s strength, depending on the word and on God through prayer.
    6:17 helmet of salvation – The helmet protected the soldier and under certain circumstances, helmets provided a striking symbol of military victory. (We have victory in Jesus, not Satan.

    In summary the Porsch and John Deere will not cause us to have a closer walk with Jesus. I might ride one and when I do, I pray and in praying I will be closer to God. However, in all truth it is our daily walk with the Lord that brings us closer to Him. We must put on the full armor of the Lord daily for the enemy is out there. He messes with those who call Jesus friend. He doesn’t like our relationship with the Lord Jesus. Don’t entangle yourself with the words and arrows the enemy throws your way and be emotionally crippled by enemy’s arrows. Stand firm with your friend, Jesus. In standing your character will shine forth just as Jesus’ character has shone through the ages. Remember to pray for one another as the enemy is always out there ready to see if he can destroy your relationship with Jesus.

    In the notes ofU

  5. To me it seems neither one would do any good…the doctor, the friend, the new car, the newhouse, the magazine ads, none would do any good, “Real Good” with out Jesus, because,
    Jesus is (Exodu 15:26..”The Lord who heals you”..(Doctor)
    Jesus is (Palsm 23:3….”He leads me in the paths”.(Car)
    Jesus is (John 15:4…..”Abide in Me,…”(The House)
    Jesus is (John 17:20-22.”glory…that they may be One, just
    as we are One…”(Magazine ads)
    Yes Sara..Healing in Gods Word together to rid oursleves of these old emotional handicaps……Thank you for this blog…or rather “Heavenly Search light”..:)dj
    ….maybe the the JohnDeere after having a Little Talk with Jesus 🙂

  6. Sara quoted the Scriptures, “Knowing what is RIGHT is like deep water in the heart,” I take that to mean deep Water of the truth that the Word of God renders. In another Scripture Jesus said that unless we become like little children, innocent and transparent , we cannot inherit the Kingdom. This brought, immediately, to mind the assessment tool I use in the classroom where the student, even the very youngest one, gives an accountability of his/her behavior and participation in the lessons of the classroom. It’s the ‘traffic light’ system (approved by administration) wherein GREEN means you made a go of it and your “performance’ is satisfactory. You made good choices during our session and you participated and followed the rules, responsibly. YELLOW means that you did not participate or you talked or had to be reprimanded for bothering or hindering classmates, or refused to do the “work” of the lesson. In other words, you did NOT follow the rules. So yellow means improvement. RED means you did something harmful or was very disrespectful to the teachers or your peers in the classroom.
    What amazes me is in most of my myriad of classes, the children KNOW in their hearts, immediately, when called to accountability what they should render as their “color” I know also, as I observe them throughout the lesson. The ones who say green with confidence are the ones who usually follow the rules. But I notice that when there is a hesitation….he usually will own up to the fact that he did not follow the guidelines set forth in the class, reiterated daily, and will eventually admit it.
    The call to accountability is a training tool that we hope will render forth eventually the peaceable fruits of righteousness. The rules must be followed and each of us is accountable for responsible behavior and the consequences of irresponsible behavior.
    Under the layers of self-deception and excuses we KNOW what the truth is. Only the Word of God and godly counsel can help some of us who have deceived ourselves for so long where reality of truth has been obscured.
    I see what Jesus was teaching us when He said to become like a little child. Most of them have not yet begun to cover themselves with deception and we pray that our intervention and the call to respect accountability and responsibility training will serve them as they mature.
    Maybe some of us adults could use the TRAFFIC LIGHT training in accountability .

  7. Emotional Roller Coasters are very dangerous. They can make someone sick, weak, and cloud the mind. The rider is constantly focused on the sitution that is driving this roller coaster. It consumes their heart, thoughts, action and speech. The rider becomes so focus on the ride(the loops and drops) that they don’t realize what is going on around them. They just keep holding on, trying to figure out where the next loop is. They become self absorbed and self focused until the ride is over. Most of the time the roller coaster will pause long enough to put more fuel in the engine so it can ride again. As riders, we must decide to continue the ride or get off the coaster. If we decide to continue the ride, it will eventually kill us by deteriorating our health or we will eventually get thrown off. If we are thrown off we are at rock bottom. By this time, the roller coaster has gotten to scary and fast and most of our family and friends don’t know how to help us, so they stay in their prayer corners, praying that the Lord would put some breaks on this coaster. After we are thrown off, we can decide to not get back in line for the ride or to jump back on. Each time the coaster gets faster and scarier. Eventually this can cause physical and spiritual death. If we are always on a coaster, we can’t do God’s work. If they only time we call on God is when this coaster has made us sick or we have fallen off, we aren’t being obedient to God. We will find ourselves all alone, with not even our Lord to talk to. If we find ourselves on an emotional roller coaster, we need to make sure we sit in the back and let God have th front car. He will make sure the ride stops safely. When we let God sit in the front car and stay focused on him, he will give us the courage and the strength to get off the coaster.
    Joshua 1:6″Be strong and courageous, for you are the one who will lead these people to possess all the land I swore to their ancestors I would give them. 7″Be strong and courageous..” 9″ This is my command- be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
    Psalms 23:3 ” He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name.”
    Psalms 139:9-10 “9 If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest ocean, 10 even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.”
    It’s our choice. We can choose to keep riding our out of control emotional roller coasters or we can focus on God and recieve the courage and strength to get off and fulfill his purpose for our lives.
    (I wish that lady on that cool lawnmower would come cut my grass!!!):)

  8. Chickenfarmer, that’s right! Instead of riding the EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER, we can take the WINGS of the MORNING. We can climb on board Ezekiel’s wheel when it touches down to admit those who have watched and recognized, waited and are prepared for it. We can ride above the high waves of adversity in the safety of the ARC of God’s protection like Noah did. Who needs the carnival or the Circus or Disney World for thrills? We have an exciting GOD Who does miracles if we would just get off our KICKS and hitch our wagons to the Bright and Morning Star.

  9. Let us not be deceived while we speak and still do. An emotional roller coaster is a period of time things seem good and then a period of time they don’t. Are we only going to seek God when things are not going well. It sure seems that way when one likes to ride the roller coaster of life.

    We seek help from God, we cry to God, when things are not going the way we think, and of course having negative emotions when you have been hurt is not the sin. I am seeing that sin enters when we express this emotion in our actions. That is get back on when God just got us off. When He answers us we run as hard as we can to jump back on. We must love it, don’t you think?

    We need to stay off the roller coaster and decide “are we roller coaster riders or not?” What happens to God when you jumped back on with the one that you so enjoy your rides with? I think the only time we really want God is when our roller coaster partner is riding with another and not us. Maybe we should see if jealousy is the reason we ride.

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