I am Sorry…

“I am sorry”

Can be the most important words one might ever say or hear. Or, they may be the most disappointing words one might say or hear.

I learned at my Mothers knees these three tiny words were only to be uttered from the purest of heart. They were meant never to be uttered often and not for deceptive motives. I was never told in my remembrance to say to my sibling that I just mistreated or spoke ugly to, “now say you are sorry” knowing I was going to do it again. We were spoken to about why we did the ugly. And, it’s consequences. To be honest there were times I did ugly and not sorry for it and my Mother knew it.

I didn’t know at the time my Mother was preparing me for the greatest earth happening ever in the life of the Christian Faith. One day her Hope was The Holy Spirit would co-counsel me along with her on what ugly, “I am sorry” really meant and the end result would be ugly to Holy. The understanding came to me very early in life that I was so “ugly” as part of living in a world of sin, death and corruption that I wanted peace, beauty and exactness. I was taught there was only one way and it was a very narrow way. Matthew 7:13-14 records, “Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: 14) Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.” Yes, from the KJV of the Bible I was taught the meaning of, I am sorry.

I could write volumes on this subject. And, you might ask, don’t you need to say sorry to others when you have wronged them? Absolutely, you should speak truth! Are you sorry? (Dictionary, 1) feeling regret, compunction, sympathy, pity, etc)? If so what do you plan to do about it other than utter words to try and cover your sorry hide. (Dictionary-2) sorry “wretched, poor, useless, or pitiful: a sorry horse.)

I’m speaking from my humble opinion of the importance of these words, “I am sorry, because it seems Mother’s knees from my viewpoint are now, hit, punch, slap, verbal ugly, lie, deceive in word or dodge, gun or whatever might empower your ego just go for it. The old way of parenting with The Holy Spirit is a butt joke in many churches. The straight and narrow of the road that leads to a follower of Jesus and Holy Living according to the New Testament (NT) of the Bible guidelines are mute in much of today’s society. To be important in myself I need to punch back harder, call others the most insulting names my limited thinking can come up with, have no love for others unless they look like me and act like me. Yeap! Ugly begets Ugly! Ugly is as Ugly does.

Hate seems to have become the norm. Love has been extracted like the removal of an aching ‘wisdom’ tooth. The NT gives in words the results of, The Cross, Sacrifice of Blood, The Messiah, The Savior of the World, love out of hate, life out of death, peace out of chaos, Eternal out of temporal.

Now granted my thoughts might sound ancient and be archaic. Therefore, I (we) would love hearing your experiences with, “I am sorry.” (My Mother and Father)

8 thoughts on “I am Sorry…

  1. “I am sorry” Can be the most important words one might ever say or hear. Or, they may be the most disappointing words one might say or hear.”

    As I read these words and all your words, Sara, over and over again, I kept hearing a short phrase from one of your teaching books that (some kind of words were) “like eating cheap candy”. Searching, I found the phrase in “The Dance of Healing, The Ultra-Healing Spirit” Comes From Within”; chapter 4: “Listening to the Word”.

    The phrase was from Proverbs 18, Message and it said, “Listening to gossip is like eating cheap candy; do you really want junk like that in your belly?” I thought, what does gossip have to do with the ugly “I am sorry”. When I looked up gossip in the dictionary, one definition was “gossip is idle talk”. One of the scriptures for gossip was Ephesians 4:29 and it called gossip corrupt, foul, abusive, unwholesome talk. And the verse says DO NOT let it come out of your mouth. Yes, I am seeing what you mean by “ugly”.
    “The Dance of Healing” lesson went on to say after Proverbs 18 that “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit – you choose.”

    These words you said above really bring the reality and seriousness of an idle, “ugly” “I am sorry” home. You then asked, “If so what do you plan to do about it other than utter words to try and cover your sorry hide.” I see the response to this means choose, action, change.

    Thank you for writing about these three words.

    1. During the summer I have been reading different writers and their forms of devotionals and meditations. I came across this exercise one day and it hung around my daily thoughts for a few days.
      “If you want to go deeper with today’s meditation, take note of what word or phrase stands out to you. Come back to that word or phrase throughout the day, being present to its impact and invitation.”

      As I read Debi’s comment here today the first word I glean from her writing was “ugly”. Then I would say phrase was Proverbs 18:8 MSG, ““Listening to gossip is like eating cheap candy; do you really want junk like that in your belly?”
      Then I read with light humor, interest and thought the full chapter from Proverb 18 (MSG) First, the light humor drew me back to days of summer beach boardwalks and “cheap cotton candy” with my children and myself enjoying the delights of colorful, sticky, sugary , tasteful cotton candy. It wasn’t cheap in $$ but cheap in nutrients.

      I read the full chapter 0f Proverbs 18 and there were chips of wisdom with wings spread so wide they covered my thinking ability for the moment. “Words satisfy the mind as much as fruit does the stomach; good talk is as gratifying as a good harvest.”
      ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭18:20‬ ‭MSG‬‬

      I enjoyed my study this am following my summer guide of word and phrase from Debi’s thoughts. And, give myself a ✔️✔️✔️ I’m back to my blog of how to obtain salvation and the beginning desire to want it.

      I’v heard it said and I believe it, “God finds us right where we are”. If you find yourself in the pool of ugly gossip, cheap cotton candy, and want words to be fruit to the stomach as you gain the ability to have meaningful conversations. Maybe a good starting point would be to read… “Fools care nothing for thoughtful discourse; all they do is run off at the mouth.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭18:2‬ ‭MSG‬‬ And, say, to the Amighty God, maker of heaven and earth, “I am sorry.”

    2. Debi, I reread your story and definition on your take on gossip-I am sorry. Well, it’s a deep well! Gossip and dictionary and application takes me out of society. No TV, no radio, no music, no words, no communication. No Bible. If I listen to News programs, same story but difference reporting. Our President called the one I just listen to fake news. Another political pundit called him liar. The balloon from a little ladies workbook of years ago with a few words taken from a writer’s take on Proverbs 18 message ….has lost its air and seems not to fly. One Christian church leader says Ok to lie, another says hell is on the way for liars. Talk, talk talk seems idle. Now, what is gossip according to Proverbs in the real world?

      It seems like from your definition of gossip the Bible just might be a gossip column. It names names, tells the good and bad of others. I’m feeling confused.

  2. What a blog to read, study, and apply to our own lives Sara! As I read this blog and began to think on things I thought of Jesus, hanging on the cross in the most unbelievable pain a human could ever imagine……. but He hung there saying….”Father, forgive them…” Imagine that…Jesus,(sinless) asking for God to forgive us (sinners)….. now that’s a true..”I’m sorry” wouldn’t you say?✝️

    1. Yes, Tammy I would say, your truth is a true, “I am sorry”. Your thoughts are the very essence of my thinking.

      …Luke 23:33) When they came to the place called The Skull, they crucified Him there, along with the criminals, one on His right and the other on His left. 34) Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up His garments by casting lots. 35) The people stood watching, and the rulers sneered at Him, saying, “He saved others; let Him save Himself if He is the Christ of God, the Chosen One.”…

      And, don’t we understand that one thief humbly asked the suffering Jesus, to remember him? When I read, tear, read I pause to think how Jesus never fails to show mercy to all yet not all seek or desire His Mercy.

  3. “I (we) would love hearing your experiences with, “I am sorry.”

    As I thought more on the blog the last couple of days, I realized how often over the years I have carelessly said “I am sorry” with no real heart or action change. Example: I have rushed through and/or been careless with a job/assignment. Reason: may have gotten distracted, tired, pressured by something else and just not staying focused and fully present. An error or mistake is made. I say “I am sorry” to the person(s) that I am accountable to or that are impacted by this. But then I make another mistake/error in a different situation for the same reasons. And then different scenario… repeat again, etc. etc. The “I am sorry” then is really not truthful. It has become like a broken record, just empty, idle words because the reason for it has not been dealt with and corrected. It takes caring, diligence and desire to make the change.

    I am grateful that Jesus who saves us also helps us see and make changes that will be pleasing to the Father and show care and love for others.

    1. Debi, it’s great that you have this great contemplative ability with good results, “As I thought more on the blog the last couple of days, I realized how often over the years I have carelessly said “I am sorry” with no real heart or action change…” Debi

      My thinking without help from many in studying their writings and words, actions of others, including Bible without my having meaningful interaction/conversations with others to correct me would not get me far. I might still be stumbling in the dark as I do at times without a Light if others didn’t loan me their (light) expertise.

      I am very thankful to have been blessed with a Mother that did double duty with me. I blessed with a family full of men that goes beyond double duty to loan their skill for my lack. And, talk about blessed having my co-laborers here (www.thedailylily.com) to enjoin with me on meaningful conversations and helpings hands I would be in a row boat thinking I was rowing and not even realize I didn’t even have an Oar!

      This type of interaction does have a place and thought here. Jesus in the NT was a master communicator to lend his skill to those that didn’t realize our strength comes from our weakness. Interesting concept wouldn’t you say based on many good thinkers and their thoughts. Some might sneer and mock and laugh like they did as Jesus hung on a cross. Only one of the two thieves that hung beside him realized humility never fails when he uttered , “remember me.”

      And, Tammy clearly points out the Master communicator spoke words that would leave many of our minds forever reeling, “Father, forgive them…”

      And, then what about this, “…Remain in Me, and I will remain in you. Just as no branch can bear fruit by itself unless it remains in the vine, neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in Me. 5) I am the vine and you are the branches. The one who remains in Me, and I in him, will bear much fruit. For apart from Me you can do nothing. 6) If anyone does not remain in Me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers. Such branches are gathered up, thrown into the fire, and burned.” John 15

      Now visualize one tiny branch on a big vine🤔 Nope we need one another’s spiritual gifts to even bear good fruit. Let us share our resources. Always remember we are divinely given great resources through flawed people that God has gifted. And, when we share with others the spring grows stronger as many can drink from the Well that will never run dry. Isaiah 58 “…10 ) and if you give yourself to the hungry and satisfy the afflicted soul, then your light will go forth in the darkness, and your night will be like noonday. 11) The LORD will always guide you; He will satisfy you in a sun-scorched land and strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail. 12) Your people will rebuild the ancient ruins; you will restore the age-old foundations; you will be called Repairer of the Breach, Restorer of the Streets of Dwelling.”

      Always a well of knowledge waiting when we connect to one another.

  4. When I read Sara’s praise about my “great contemplative ability with good results”, I began to see that what I wrote was a response that she and others had already formulated for me. I had just attended a daylong conference sponsored by my school on developing an “Innovator’s Mindset”. The speaker, George Couros, was trying to get us to see things from a different perspective and make changes and realize that it’s not about you, the teacher and what you like and how you think and learn, but about the student and their passions and interests and the different ways they learn. Sara and I had several conversations regarding points and take-aways from the conference on new ways of teaching and how to make the changes.

    When Sara responded to my comment, I realized the speaker and Sara, a wordsmith, had both set me up for a revelation of seeing how busy I was with my self and how lacking and uncaring I have been to make any real changes.

    Today, I attended more instructional school meetings presented by leaders very skilled in their topic areas. These sessions were designed to help us change and be able to implement new ideas. I saw that the info I was receiving continued to reinforce the words of Sara and the conference speaker. Hopefully, I will be able to draw from this valuable input that has been provided and make changes in my agriculture classes that will foster student development and learning. I realized through exposure to new ways of teaching, how much I need others at all times just like a tree needs its branches, and how I need to appreciate, recognize, applaud, utilize and acknowledge their gifts and help.

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