Your friend, Sara, sure shares lots of helpful insights here! Thank you for sharing them!
One of the comments your friend made, Sara, “Instead of accepting kindness with gratitude,”… seems to have a key word helping to answer your question…’gratitude’.
I recall learning about gratitude as a powerful tool in finding and using our spiritual gifts from one of Sara’s retreat workbooks, “The Four Bees”. In it, she quoted Psalm 100:4 and told us, “The Psalmist instructs us to be grateful, to be appreciative. Say your thanks. Express gratitude, smile, bow, sing and dance. Express joy.” I am thinking, wow, this would sure bring a healing balm to hostility and divisiveness.
Another thing Sara’s friend said that seems so vital in answering the question posted was, “The best acts of kindness are the unanticipated ones .. and often they are not purchased but given by action – DOING something to assist someone.”
That reminded me of an action scripture that I think on and try to recall and refer to often, “The seeds of good deeds become a tree of life;” Proverbs 11:30. Planting an act of kindness will eventually help bring life to the person or situation.
And another important thing I appreciated reading from your friend, Sara, was their thought, “It’s sad because kindness is a spiritual gift that should not be restricted to certain social rules.”
That sure reinforces the scripture posted from Galatians 5. And it reminded me of these scriptures.
“A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone,…” 2 Tim 2:24
“Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, …” Ephesian 4:32
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Your friend, Sara, sure shares lots of helpful insights here! Thank you for sharing them!
One of the comments your friend made, Sara, “Instead of accepting kindness with gratitude,”… seems to have a key word helping to answer your question…’gratitude’.
I recall learning about gratitude as a powerful tool in finding and using our spiritual gifts from one of Sara’s retreat workbooks, “The Four Bees”. In it, she quoted Psalm 100:4 and told us, “The Psalmist instructs us to be grateful, to be appreciative. Say your thanks. Express gratitude, smile, bow, sing and dance. Express joy.” I am thinking, wow, this would sure bring a healing balm to hostility and divisiveness.
Another thing Sara’s friend said that seems so vital in answering the question posted was, “The best acts of kindness are the unanticipated ones .. and often they are not purchased but given by action – DOING something to assist someone.”
That reminded me of an action scripture that I think on and try to recall and refer to often, “The seeds of good deeds become a tree of life;” Proverbs 11:30. Planting an act of kindness will eventually help bring life to the person or situation.
And another important thing I appreciated reading from your friend, Sara, was their thought, “It’s sad because kindness is a spiritual gift that should not be restricted to certain social rules.”
That sure reinforces the scripture posted from Galatians 5. And it reminded me of these scriptures.
“A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone,…” 2 Tim 2:24
“Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, …” Ephesian 4:32