Study with Sara-M&M’s

Do you like M&M’s?
Which kind do you like best?
OK, we all understand test/exams, don’t we? First comes the guidelines for the exam and then the questions.

Our guidelines:

Don’t click to second page if you do not want to take the test of M&M’s.
Don’t read the questions and then research or check with another either in person or their answers before you answer.
Don’t read and then come back to answer. If you don’t have a few minutes to answer then come back later when you have time before you read the questions.

If you are an M&M lover then click, read, and answer.

Do you know the difference between Motivation and Manipulation?
Which one do you prefer in your interpersonal relationships?
Are they Biblical? One of both?

Give us your understanding of M&M’s and how you use them in your interpersonal relationships?

Have you just now been motivated or manipulated? Why do you think this?


13 thoughts on “Study with Sara-M&M’s”

  1. to me there is such a thin line between the two…..usually one for the good will say in motivating some one{you have talent or you can do this just keep up the good work …..) and manipulate can be for the bad or the good but I believe and could be wrong but manipulate may be to get some one to do something they want and not what the other one thinks….just like this test….it makes one to think….after realizing that it is not candy…m-ms….mainly because it was not stated as such but worded in a way to get one to go to this test….and it was for the good….so ……to answer I think I was both motivated and manipulated…:)…??????? have I failed?

    Sara’s Note: looks like you, DJ, make an honest effort to respond, cooperate, learn and have fun. What in the world made you think we were talking about CANDY! Now, I really know your favorite kind of candy! By the way, do you like peanuts inside the candy?:)

    DJ, I think of motivation as a skill to get another to respond and you did!
    stimulate (someone’s) interest in or enthusiasm for doing something:

    In my mind I think when you manipulate you may cause retaliation (like the sting of a bee). Therefore, I will know if you passed the exam by how you treat the test giver when they are not looking. Hey, I like this kind of puzzle better than working crosswords. I just make this up for FUN!

  2. Well, first of all, I thought you would be asking about M & M’s the candy and would poll us to see who liked which colors best and then tell us our personality profile from that. However, that might not be too far from the facts even though you are NOT talking about candy but it sort of MANIPULATED us to into thinking it was. I already had my color picked out. So I was MOTIVATED to participate in the TEST even tho I was manipulated at the start.
    BUT!!!! I messed up by inadvertantly reading another comment as I passed over it to get to “____submit comment”__
    So I broke the rules, but unintentionally, when I started out. Confession. So I understand I am disqualified.

    Sara’s Note: curiosity killed the cat Dictionary: proverb being inquisitive about other people’s affairs may get you into trouble.

  3. I would think motivation has to do with spurring another on to action. Helping someone change an attitude so they can make a change themselves for better. Lighting a fire or inner response within someone so they can get up and do something they previously may not have been able to do prior to the motivation. I think you know when someone motivates you.
    Manipulation may also produce an action, reaction in another through means of control and/or deception. The recipient may not know they have been influenced.
    Both may illicit a response through the power of suggestion, but manipulation suggests to me that someone has ‘tricked’ another into doing something. It can be very subtle.
    I think I prefer to be motivated.
    I believe the Bible has examples of both. Perhaps an example of manipulation is when Jacob and his mother manipulated his father for the blessing.
    An example of motivation in interpersonal: I think I consciously attempt to motivate my students to study and to learn by truly being excited about what I do and trying to find and implement ways to help them learn.
    But my ‘passion’ may become ‘pressure’ and that’s when it may become manipulation.
    This gets to be a deeper subject the more I reflect on it!
    I think I was motivated to take the ‘test’ and write. I got excited to want to find out what was on the test. I was not disappointed and I don’t feel tricked. I feel like I am learning.

    Sara’s Note: WOW, If you are learning you are a winner in my mind. Looks like you have an ‘attitude of gratitude!’ Dictionary: Gratitude-the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. I think you really understand motivation and you are not going to manipulate another. By the way since you are in the thinking mode, do you think The Word of God motivates one to praise the Lord! Or, manipulations one to praise the Lord!

    Second Note: Debi, did Jacob suffer retaliation from his brother when truth was known?

  4. What is the difference between motivation and manipulation?
    When I hear motivation, I hear…”being self-energized to get moving.”
    When I hear manipulation, I hear…”someone else has energized one to move.”

    Which one do I prefer in my interpersonal relationships? I want to say motivation here, but I have to say that manipulation is needed sometimes.

    Are they Biblical? Yes, if you communicate with the Lord, seek Him through His Word and in prayer then you will be motivated to do what is right. If manipulation is happening, then it is only Biblical, if one is being energized by a Godly person.
    One of both? I think I can say both.

    Give us your understanding of M&M’s and how you use them in your interpersonal relationships.
    Motivation is something we all need a lot of. We have spoke previously about being “proactive”. If we don’t have any motivation, then we may have a tendency to just “let life go”. If I never put anything into my interpersonal relationships, then my guess would be that the relationship would eventually, not exist. Manipulation has negative connotations to it, but when someone uses Biblical counsel to get an unmotivated person to do the right thing, then you may help that person become a motivated person. I believe I may use both motivation and manipulation in my interpersonal relationships.

    Have you just now been motivated or manipulated? both

    Why do you think this? because I am doing something that will help me grow, learn, and hopefully be motivated to do the right thing.

    Sara’s Note: Needles, Excellent counsel! Makes one think one should always check with the heart before manipulating or motivating. Hey, aren’t you one that specializes (point of interest) in the heart in your work

  5. Wow, I have just read everyone else’s comments. What a great test this was, Sara! Naturally, I am always thinking on the health care aspect of things, and I was thinking about M&M again…..
    For example, if a patient comes in with a dislocated finger, this means the finger is “not in the right position.” Now, the patient can be motivated all he wants, but that finger is never gonna be in the right position, without that doctor “manipulating” it back to it’s correct position.
    Maybe a healthy dose of both M&M is what we all need today!?!?

    Sara’s Notes: a real graphic account of seeing and understanding.

  6. To motivate is to encourage someone in a positive manner.
    To manipulate is to trick or deceive.
    When one is motivated, they are excited, ready to help, and will do what is asked of them and more with a cheerful heart.They trust the motivator and believe in them for making one believe in themselves. They have been encouraged and want to work hard to please and help the one that is the motivator. A truly motivated person will go beyond the call of duty with joy in their heart and feel good about what they have accomplished. This is a positive reinforcement.
    When one is manipulated, they may do what they are told, but not much more. They feel used and betrayed. They are not joyful and may be bitter about the situation at hand. They feel like they can not trust the manipulator and don’t believe anything the manipulator says. They feel like they have the watch, their back. This situation usually brings lots of tension and stress. This is a negative reinforcement that is often used in many situations.
    I am a motivator. I believe anything is possible with God’s help. I like positive reinforcement. I try to encourage people in a positive way. I don’t like being manipulated. I don’t like mind games and trickery. I don’t like to be deceived. I feel many times, I am manipulated more than I am motivated. Many people feel like they have to manipulate to get ahead in life. Manipulators don’t think about the affect manipulation has on the other person. All the manipulator cares about is getting what they need out of that person at that particular time. They are not concerned with that person’s well being. Manipulation is a selfish, self-seeking act. It can destroy business, break up marriages, break up families, destroy nations and destroy salvations. This is a trick from Satan. We must be cautious. The Motivator wants the best for the other person. The motivator cares about people and their feelings. They want the other person to be successful and are happy when this occurs. They are not jealous or hard hearted. They have a positive outlook in life. Motivation has made businesses stronger, made marriages stronger, made families stronger, made nations stronger, and if motivated by God can provide salivation.

    Sara’s Notes: one definition of manipulation is: “control or influence (a person or situation) unfairly, or unscrupulously : the masses were deceived and manipulated by a tiny group.” You are more than right Chickenfarmer! When one uses manipulation in this way, it has to be evil. When one uses it for health in one of the ways Needles used above, it is healing. This reminds me of the Word of God being like a two edged sword.

  7. Sara you asked me: “By the way since you are in the thinking mode, do you think The Word of God motivates one to praise the Lord! Or, manipulations one to praise the Lord!”
    I think it motivates because it is very forthright and explicit in encouraging us to praise Him and states in purity all the benefits to both the praiser and the One being praised.

    With regard to Sara’s other question: “Debi, did Jacob suffer retaliation from his brother when truth was known?”
    Yes, he did initially. However, after physical separation of many years and his brother, Esau (having achieved a seeming comfortable degree of prosperity/security) was apparently no longer in a retaliation mode. Jacob was able to meet him and part from him amicably.

  8. Good thinking Debi. Looks like you are living up to
    “Set your mind and heart to seek (inquire of and require as your vital necessity) the Lord your God.” (I Chronicles 22:19 AMP).

  9. gee…after reading everyone elses comments to this…it sure makes me glad Im apart of this study because it aint candy we’re talking about and this is the place to learn what really is being taught and how to use it…thanks Needles for haveing such a clear cut and simple way of making things soooo easy to paint a picture in my mind(because I think in pictures) to help me really even more clearly understand the thin line I was seeing between the m-ms…..and You too Chicken Farmer…..Sara…this is one of those on going thinking tests….I found myself asking throughout the day am I being motivated or manipulated by the things people were saying to me….sometimes it was sort of fun trying to quess….:)dj

  10. THEME: The proud and lying words of people verses the true and pure words of God. A call for protection against those who try to MANIPULATE us. (NLT)
    Psalm 12:1-8 “1 Help, O Lord, for the godly are fast disappearing! The faithful have vanished from the earth!
    2 Neighbors lie to each other, speaking with flattering lips and deceitful hearts. 3 May the Lord cut off their lips and silence their boastful tongues. 4 They say, “We will lie to our hearts’ content. Our lips are our own-who can stop us?”
    5 The Lord replies, “I have seen violence done to the helpless, and I have heard the groans of the poor. Now I will rise up to rescue them, as they have longed for me to do.” 6 The Lord’s promises are pure, like silver refined in a furnace, purified seven times over. 7 Therefore, Lord, we know you will protect the oppressed, preserving them forever from this lying generation, 8 even though the wicked strut about, and evil is praised throughout the land.”

  11. Many thanks to all that have participated in this learning workshop. This is a very sensitive subject and yet healing and encouraging for those that want to be healed. I have heard it said many times, ‘healing is a choice.’

    Chickenfarmer, thank you for the reminder of the above verses. When I was a very young girl my father died and we were left with lots of sorrow and pain by my Mother and all our family.

    My Mother and her little children were mistreated and manipulated to say the least by prideful and scheming men in the community, neighbors, to take her property. They cared nothing about a widow and her children. But, God did. Your scriptures were the ones we used many times to help bring about our healing. Thanks for sharing with all of us such power packed words.

    I like to always remember when I feel emotional pain that healing is a choice. You are a great healer, Wendy. God bless you and your family and may you be healed in every area of your life. I pray this for you as I pray for myself and my family.

    You are prophetic and you have seen and heard the cries of God’s people without even knowing it yourself but you have responded. Thank You! You are a motivator!

  12. Thank you Wendy, Sara, and all the rest. I have been manipulated and know the horrors of watching your back. I am one of the fortunate ones though that God in all his love has put motivators in my life. I thank God for those motivators who have molded and touched my life. I have come to the point now that I don’t want to say anything about what the Devil does to destroy you as it seems to give him a hand of applause everytime. So I say God’s in control so move out of the way Satan. You have no power over me so in Jesus’s name be gone.

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